I got a phone call today from a Mortuary, to say that my dad passed away a month ago (took them a month to track me down). He died of lung cancer at age 61 and had me named as his next of kin.
I haven't seen him or heard from him for about 20 years. My parents divorced when I was 18 months old and dad used to pick me up every sunday til I was about 10 years old and go to the zoo or the park or whatever for the day. I got along very fondly with him til one sunday he didnt turn up and that was the end of it.
My mum met another bloke (that I call 'dad') when I was 3 and married him when I was 6, so I was never without a father figure. I was angry as a teenager that my 'real dad' wasn't about, but as an adult I've considered trying to find him a few times over the years (and gotten as much as some vague clues on his whereabouts), but always put off searching as I was worried what I'd find "What if he had a new family, what if he didn't want to know me, etc" so always put it off as a 'one day' thing. One day never came and I regret this.
So, it seems to me, that 'not doing something' is always more regretful than the 'doing something', anyone else feel this way?
I haven't seen him or heard from him for about 20 years. My parents divorced when I was 18 months old and dad used to pick me up every sunday til I was about 10 years old and go to the zoo or the park or whatever for the day. I got along very fondly with him til one sunday he didnt turn up and that was the end of it.
My mum met another bloke (that I call 'dad') when I was 3 and married him when I was 6, so I was never without a father figure. I was angry as a teenager that my 'real dad' wasn't about, but as an adult I've considered trying to find him a few times over the years (and gotten as much as some vague clues on his whereabouts), but always put off searching as I was worried what I'd find "What if he had a new family, what if he didn't want to know me, etc" so always put it off as a 'one day' thing. One day never came and I regret this.
So, it seems to me, that 'not doing something' is always more regretful than the 'doing something', anyone else feel this way?