Hi,
Sort of a in a pickle and need to see if people would have any suggestions at solving this? In a nutshell, we are providing accommodation for a 14 yr old who is doing high school here - he is from Asia and mrs's nephew. We currently rent my mum's rear unit whilst she lives at the front with my mrs's nephew.
We do not charge him any $ for food and accommodation but he is required to help my mother and father out with his home duties - this includes cleaning his own room, upstairs rumpus (his exclusive use), own bathroom - all once a week as well as the kitchen (every 2nd day). My mother cooks for us all and works 6 days a week - so fairly hectic and gets very tired for a late 50s person.
He has not kept his end of the deal and is generally lazy....just wants to be on the mobile 24/7 etc. My mother coming from a different era expects a lot and is only impressed by hard working people...I tried to sort of calm her down and say it's different these days.
I do feel for him being only 14 and living away from home, however, on the other hand, he made the commitment to come over, he should expect to do some hard yards?
My question is what is fair? Is it too much to ask for the above??
We were reluctant to take him on as we are full ourselves with our 2 yr old and newborn, but he has no family here other than his aunty (my wife) and his folks are too game with other homestay families.
It hasn't worked out well and could get ugly - can't evict him from my mother's as he is 14 and can't exactly send him back either!!
Thanks!
Sort of a in a pickle and need to see if people would have any suggestions at solving this? In a nutshell, we are providing accommodation for a 14 yr old who is doing high school here - he is from Asia and mrs's nephew. We currently rent my mum's rear unit whilst she lives at the front with my mrs's nephew.
We do not charge him any $ for food and accommodation but he is required to help my mother and father out with his home duties - this includes cleaning his own room, upstairs rumpus (his exclusive use), own bathroom - all once a week as well as the kitchen (every 2nd day). My mother cooks for us all and works 6 days a week - so fairly hectic and gets very tired for a late 50s person.
He has not kept his end of the deal and is generally lazy....just wants to be on the mobile 24/7 etc. My mother coming from a different era expects a lot and is only impressed by hard working people...I tried to sort of calm her down and say it's different these days.
I do feel for him being only 14 and living away from home, however, on the other hand, he made the commitment to come over, he should expect to do some hard yards?
My question is what is fair? Is it too much to ask for the above??
We were reluctant to take him on as we are full ourselves with our 2 yr old and newborn, but he has no family here other than his aunty (my wife) and his folks are too game with other homestay families.
It hasn't worked out well and could get ugly - can't evict him from my mother's as he is 14 and can't exactly send him back either!!
Thanks!