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No one needs a study to realise that. Having your children stripped away, lies and innuedo being told about you in the subtle ways that endure, the pain of being shunted out of the marriage home.
Pfftt....lack of money - who cares....doesn't even rate compared to the pain most Dads go thru losing their kids. How much is a ripped out heart worth ??
I just came back on this subject and over a dozen contributions, anecdotes and experiences were shared. Most have some contributions I agree with and consider 'truths'. However, it is a study that can give an objective summation in a methodical approach to distill some conclusions. The study confirms that divorced man generally suffer emotionally from the divorce. This shows that on this aspect alone divorce is not what man generally want. However, they must have contributed to it happening even if they generally are not the ones who initiated divorce as the saying goes 'it takes two to tango'.
I sympathise with the emotional damage to the psyche of the divorced man. The children can mean so much to any parent and to be denied access to them is truly mean and unjust. No wonder family courts were bombed and presiding judges shot at not too long ago by aggrieved divorced fathers. I am not condoning those criminal acts but can impagine that they were the desperate acts of divorced fathers in custodial proceedings, which appear to be unfairly biased against them. The family court appears to be failing them.
On a brighter note, I attended a church wedding between a Cambodian and a Chinese. All the traditional beliefs for a happy life together were there:
1) religious belief that the union is spiritually inspired
2) oath to be mate for life, for better or for worse, signed certificate, exchanged rings
3) church members, colleagues and family members as witnesses
4) presents and good wishes of support were made
5) everyone was dressed to celebrate the couple's union
For the couple, the wedding marks a happy event in their lives. It is not a power struggle that brought them together. It was love, companionship and complementarity. They were not trained for many of the situations they will face in the future but I think they will manage if they seek the good for each other.
'He who loves his wife loves himself.' Ephesians 5:28
'Happy wife, happy life'