the problem is that it swings towards "how can I control my wife", rather than how can we work together....... marry someone younger, who will let you earn all the money and stay home and look after the kids.
Penny, I honestly don't understand how you equate marrying someone younger, earning more and someone who stays home to controlling that person.
There are some men who prefer a wife who will stay home with the children, as they believe that at least one person should be home to raise children. It hardly equates to wanting to control their wife.
In relation to marrying soneone younger? Heck, I dunno where you get the control issue from that, either.
I'd like to ask you a serious question. If you had a female friend who stated to you that she intended to marry a younger guy, who stayed home with the kids and made little or no money, what would your reaction to her be? Would you say to her 'You just want to control him!'?
In relation to earning all the money? Well, if the wife is a stay at home wife, unless she has some sort of side business, he will be the one earning all the money. But I'm quite sure that is not what you were alluding to.
Time to get politically incorrect again. Women marry up. When was the last time you saw a female lawyer married to a mechanic? Getting back to evolutionary instinct, how many women are going to view a guy who makes less than she does, works in a lower status job than she does as someone who can protect and provide for her offspring? I'm not talking a few thousand dollars here, I'm talking a significant difference. Social status is exceedingly important to many women. As Dr. Warren Farrell says 'Men view women as sex objects, women view men as success objects'.
At work a few months back, I was chatting to a female co-worker who was recently divorced. I asked her what she was looking for in an ideal new husband? Her answer, while surprisingly frank, didn't shock me: 'A guy who earns at least six figures so that I can afford to stay home and raise children'.
I was pleasantly surprised by this answer because it's un-PC for a woman to acknowledge reliance on a man in this day and age. Now I can tell you, this young lady is feisty in the extreme, trying to control her would be like trying to control a cyclone. She has a very dominant nature. So she is looking for all the things you say a man wants in order to control a woman, yet the idea of someone trying to control her... as Bender would say 'Does not compute'.
Besides, I find that men that won't allow themselves to be dictated to by their wives, you know - guys with a spine and cajones, are not interested in controlling them, as they have enough confidence and self esteem to see her as a partner, not a slave. It's the guys with little or no confidence that try to control their women, mostly out of fear of losing her to someone else.