I'm tentatively dipping my toe into developing & doing some feasibility on a block of land. I've briefly spoken to a town planner & am getting the contract of sale, I've exhausted my limited knowledge &, as this is my first development, plan on engaging a project manager, have a formal feasibility study done etc.
Today my parents came to look at the block with me, this was Mum's suggestion. Mum's very supportive & interested but as I'm single they often stick their nose in where they would not think of doing with my brother, we've had this conversation previously when I've asked them to back off a bit. Anyway, my Dad started catastrophising (totally a word, right??) over something on the block which I hadn't noticed. When I remained calm & simply said "yes, I'll need to look into that" he kept going & escalating about how I should walk away, it was obviously a problem etc. It's complete crap, he has no idea if it's a major issue, how much it would cost, I haven't made an offer on the land so it is completely not the drama he was making it out to be. Eventually, when I asked him to calm down & acknowledge I'd said I would look into it he stomped off in a huff. This is completely "normal" behaviour for my Dad.
My lesson for the day is to stop talking to them about this stuff & just get on & do it. It's none of their damn business & if they're, well he is, going to have kittens about something which may not even be a problem then clearly he'll just stress me out & not add any value what so ever to the process.
Today my parents came to look at the block with me, this was Mum's suggestion. Mum's very supportive & interested but as I'm single they often stick their nose in where they would not think of doing with my brother, we've had this conversation previously when I've asked them to back off a bit. Anyway, my Dad started catastrophising (totally a word, right??) over something on the block which I hadn't noticed. When I remained calm & simply said "yes, I'll need to look into that" he kept going & escalating about how I should walk away, it was obviously a problem etc. It's complete crap, he has no idea if it's a major issue, how much it would cost, I haven't made an offer on the land so it is completely not the drama he was making it out to be. Eventually, when I asked him to calm down & acknowledge I'd said I would look into it he stomped off in a huff. This is completely "normal" behaviour for my Dad.
My lesson for the day is to stop talking to them about this stuff & just get on & do it. It's none of their damn business & if they're, well he is, going to have kittens about something which may not even be a problem then clearly he'll just stress me out & not add any value what so ever to the process.