Kesse, I often refer to the following when in doubt over some decisions.
"Try each path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary. Then ask yourself, and yourself alone one question, Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good. If it doesn't it is of no use" Carlos Castenada
Hi Player, that's a good quote but a tricky one - both paths have a heart for me. I think it's a matter of which one has more heart or which one appeals to the heart more. I was just about to write 'do I follow the lifestyle heart or the career heart' but really, they will eventually merge and be one and the same in Cairns when I follow the self emp path, just not aligned to the same point in time.
Changes in life happen as they are meant to - don't stress or over analyse and go with your gut feeling.
Sounds like you're already in Cairns - just need your body to follow. I say, go for it. What's the worst that could happen?
Hubby was retrenched just under two years ago - we knew it was coming and didn't stress - what was the worst that could happen if he didn't get another job? We'd have to sell the ridge top ppor and move down to the flats for something half the price (being walking distance to the beach that's still pretty good) - I'd have to go back to work after 13 years out of the workforce (Comm bank had some inbound call centre shift job's paying pretty darn good at that time) - and life would still be good.
Instead - hubby walked into a new job 4 days after getting a payout from his old - we took a tree change - and life is still pretty darn good.
Different - and a path we wouldn't have otherwise chosen - but good.
Read the quote below ...
I am a true believer of things happening for a reason and when things don't work out with the benefit of hindsight you realise why and are then grateful for it. I just haven't reached that hindsight stage.
One of my daily fantasies is imagining my life in Cairns so yeah, I think I'm already there!
"What's the worst that can happen" is a game I like to play all the time. If I can live with the worse case scenario, then really, what's stopping me. So, what's the worse that can happen? We hate Cairns, I don't enjoy my job and my self emp option doesn't work out. No biggie in the scheme of things. We can rent our property out which is (currently) CF+ and can either go back to the job I have now - I'm fairly sure my boss would have me back or set up roots somewhere else. I can certainly live with that.
Please to hear things worked out for you and your husband. Sometimes when life throws bad things at you it all works out for the best at the end. Best case scenario for me would to be made redundant. That would be a half decent pay day that would facilitate the move to Cairns as well as tiding us over while I set up my self emp option. Ah well.
I love a good saying and a good cliche - another one of my 'things' is to have no regrets. I think there will be a little bit of regret or 'what if' with either path I take but it's a matter of chosing the path with the least amount of regret.
I have tattooed on me "Audentes Fortuna Juvat" which translates to fortune favours the bold - I have it as a reminder to push myself and step outside of my comfort zone because when I do life just seems to have a way of working itself out. I do need to listen to my gut and not my massively over thinking brain!